Licensed family therapist Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile answers the internet’s burning questions about relationships. How do you know if someone is gaslighting you? Can a relationship withstand cheating? Do open relationships really work? What causes a marriage of fifteen years to fail? How do you know if your significant other is “The One”? Stephanie answers all these questions and much more.
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Thanks for having me! I'm loving your comments. Thanks for the kindness, everyone!
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Actually I don't agree with the conclusion. If something else as you and your partner is deemed to sustain your relationship, it will eventually crumble in the first place, and thus is better early than late. I mean that in a general sense, not over criticizing your partner's friends, which I find also counterproductive, but for other reasons.
This has kind of encouraged me a little to write to someone who I’ve kind of ghosted (as well as vice versa).
The only problem though is the relationship was quite complicated and toxic (poly that fell apart quite spectacularly) and we’ve been kinda just ghosting each other (but I would still like to clarify/send a message so there’s closure)
Another reason is because not only was that my first time being in a relationship (and experimenting) but also the person is manipulative and toxic. I do also struggle a bit with saying “no” sometimes (especially when it’s personal) but I’m trying to get better at it.
Sometimes people, like autistic people, are genuine scapegoats and not narcissists thinking they're scapegoats.
As someone who was ghosted for my autism, I say it's NEVER okay to ghost someone.
What a beautiful, intelligent and warm woman ❤
That definition on a narcissism encapsulates my sister perfectly.
I'm not even in a relationship but this is just simply great life advice. 👌🏻😌
3:49 accepted?
I'm amazed by how straight to the point and clearly she speaks
I am a little disappointed that she didn't mention the problematic origin and nature of the Love Languages
Excellent advice! The only notes I would give are on your last bit of advice. As relationships mature, so do the things people want out of those relationships. So, while having conversations about expectations (such as whether a person wants children) are important at the beginning of a relationship… those goals can change and it is equally important to have those conversations later, without assuming your partner still feels the same as at the beginning of the relationship.
Oh man, I had the first situation happen to me and it was so hard because my friendship with her was very new and I knew she had suspicions about her boyfriend cheating on her. I did end up telling her and she disappeared for a week. I was devastated, but then she came to me and told me it was the catalyst for finally ending that relationship and we’ve been best friends for 25 years now.
Every answer in this video is “it depends on the person”
Such an amazing video!! I love this therapist so much
Stephanie is a beautiful soul, I loved all her answers. What a great video, thanks for the great replies, SYA!
100% agree on the kids thing. If you're dating someone that wants kids but you don't want kids, even if they're perfect in every other way, it's not worth it. Can you really be happy not having kids w/ someone you love that desperately wants kids? I couldn't, I will never date a man who wants children. I can't ask him to give up having a family with kids because of my desires.
Gaslighting has a bad ring to it. But i consider like for example if i get violent when I'm upset, it'd be good for me AND others if i second guessed myself about that way of expression.
But gaslighting isn't objective; like if one person think I'm gaslighting but everyone else thinks that is delusional , I'd both be gaslighting and not
A bunch of non answers brought to you by Buzzword Bingo
She knows
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